16. How are we to respond to one who says, "I forgive,' yet acts out revenge?
Reconcilation is complex.
It includes smaller steps that I did not discuss in the sermon on Genesis 50 because it wasn't in the story.
After confession, restitution follows. If you confess having stolen from someone, the next step is paying back what was stolen. If you don't, then confession seems hollow and the forgiving party will want to know when the return is scheduled! If you think you should be forgiven WITHOUT RESTITUTION, then the wounded party may appear to be acting in vengeance toward you!!!!
If confession is followed by restitution, and still vengeful behaviour comes, then that requires a second confrontation, this time on the 'confessors' part. The roles are reverse.